I feel as we become more progressive in our everyday thinking, women are accelerating far too quickly into the independent, conquer all,zero fucks given out to anyone who holds a door or attempts to assist in anyway; to put up with the bare minimum that is being pumped out by the new crop of “living in their feminine energy” man-children.

Have we moved into a new age embodiment of the phrase, “I don’t even need a man?” With technology, electronics, feminism and the ability to have children without a partner… why would we? I have encountered many situations where I have needed to support myself, build things, fix things, find a way to get stuff taken care of all without relying on a partner; and we all know there are many toys on the market to take care of the “other” needs. So really, if we can satisfy all of our own criteria, are we moving out of expectations for an ideal partner and into the end of romance? Or am I simply flipping off the emotional switch because when I personally say “I need a man” I feel like I am asking for old fashioned manners -opening of doors, picking up the bill, offering a jacket, nurturing -in trade for stability type of values?

A thousand feminists just rolled over in their single room apartments, “Riot grrrl” posters plastered to the walls, the smell of sandal wood permeating the air, metal balls hanging where a door knocker ought to be… all with one identical thought… I (The CR) am the bane of all movements in the stride for equality… It’s my kind of thinking that keeps women in the stone ages. I’m the person that’s holding us back.

How can we expect these men NOT to look the other way when we struggle with bags? If they are berated for holding the door (which is human courtesy) scolded for grabbing the bill, made to feel like maybe they should stay home and play mommy for awhile, why would they continue to feel like providers? We literally took their job away. Not saying that we shouldn’t pick up the bill, or work full time or allow the men to raise the kids… but honestly, we are going so far past equality it’s like we’re handing them an, ‘it’s okay to give bare minimum’ pass, WE are giving these men an excuse to actually sit back and believe that they are obligated to do nothing. And we are to blame, because hey, we don’t need a man! And the end result is.. there won’t be any left.

I’m watching with trepidation what this new generation of boys are growing into. And it’s scary to think that these women that are raising sons to believe that it’s okay to allow the woman to do everything, is normal. It is just frightening. I’m sorry, but we are just built different and have been adapting far too quickly. So quickly that we can’t find that happy medium. So instead of having someone that can manage the things that you could manage, but just don’t always want to, we proclaim that we don’t need anybody and do it ourselves. Arguably, a strong ability to have, until you end up with an emotional disconnect.

Yours always in knowing what I bring to the table and being able to eat alone – although, I really prefer an equal partner,

CR